{"id":465,"date":"2015-02-24T05:56:07","date_gmt":"2015-02-24T05:56:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tomzom.com\/blog\/?p=465"},"modified":"2015-02-28T08:47:17","modified_gmt":"2015-02-28T08:47:17","slug":"the-man-in-the-middle-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tomzom.com\/blog\/2015\/02\/24\/the-man-in-the-middle-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The man in the middle"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When an argument of any kind breaks out it seems only natural that there be a third-party. Another human life who can give that third-party perspective, to try to keep the whole situation as “fair” as possible.\u00a0 Seems like a fool-proof plan to keep both sides of the argument in line, and under control right?<\/p>\n

WRONG!<\/p>\n

The middle man is probably one of the most unfair, and uncomfortable positions you can ever put a person in, especially if said “Middle Man”\u00a0is friends with\u00a0both\u00a0parties involved! It’s a set up to take sides so no matter how you spin it, shake it, toss it or whatever you want to do with it, you’re going to end up doing one of three things.<\/p>\n

1). You’re going to offend one of the\u00a0people who forced you into the argument.<\/p>\n

2). You’re going to offend BOTH of the people who forced you into\u00a0the argument\u00a0.<\/p>\n

3).\u00a0You’re going to be\u00a0no help whatsoever, and make the entire situation WAY worse than it already was to start out with.<\/p>\n

Seems like the simple solution would be to quit putting people in that awkward position of having to choose sides, and throw in their two cents\u00a0about your stupid, idiotic, unimportant, and personal debate. But, of course, we as humans don’t think that way, oh no! There (seemingly) must ALWAYS be that someone who\u00a0people can rely on to “have their back.” Well, I’m going to give you some advice that could quite possibly save a whole ton of hoopla for all those “Middle Men” out there.<\/p>\n

Are you ready for it? Okay, here it comes…..<\/p>\n

DEAL WITH YOUR OWN ARGUMENTS! <\/strong><\/p>\n

There it is, I said it. You started it, you finish it. You can’t always rely on another person to take your side! why? Because 99.9% of the time, the person who you so forcefully added to your little debate does not give two flying flips of a McDonalds McDouble about what your little argument is even about! So why in the world would you even begin to be the least bit offended with the opinion\u00a0of the person who\u00a0was forced to\u00a0GIVE<\/strong> their opinion in the first place?<\/p>\n

My guess? It is because most of the time, the opinion given from the third-party or “Middle Man” is generally going to be the most straight forward, and honest answer you’re going to\u00a0receive. It, by default becomes their job, starting from the time\u00a0you forced them into your business, to\u00a0observe, and see both sides equally, and to create common ground for both parties to put their differences to rest. So what happens? their views end up getting shot to the ground — generally by both parties,\u00a0because they didn’t magically agree with 100%\u00a0of either party.<\/p>\n

In conclusion, I would just like to say this:\u00a0Cut the middle man some slack as\u00a0you\u00a0brought that person in to the argument in the first place!\u00a0Show some dang appreciation to those\u00a0who have to sit there and listen to\u00a0some debate that they didn’t even\u00a0start,\u00a0are not at all involved\u00a0in, and are now\u00a0obligated to finish. You’re\u00a0NOT going to win every single one of your arguments.\u00a0If you feel the need to have a “Middle man,”\u00a0then listen to whatever it is they have to say.\u00a0Be open to the advice they give — YOU ASKED FOR IT!<\/p>\n

-Venus<\/p>\n

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